Connect With Your Partner : 7 Little Things To Do

• In the busy rush of everyday life, it can be easy to forget the most basic ways to connect with
  your partner. These simple yet powerful gestures, courtesy of the forthcoming book Save Your Marriage 
  in Five Minutes a Day byBonnie Jacobson, Ph.D., with Alexia Paul (Adams Media 2011),
  are easy ways feel closer in mere minutes.
  
  
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  1. Grab hands whenever you can
  
  

  Holding hands is announcing to the world that you're together.
  Hand holding is an uncomplicated sign of your togetherness. It's an announcement to the world that you belong together. Reaching for your spouse's hand may also take you back to those first few dates where his touch sent sparks flying.    
  
  
• 2. Link arms
  This is charmingly old-fashioned and shows that you lean on each other. While walking together,
  take his arm and notice an instant feeling of togetherness. If you and your partner don't enjoy
  holding hands, this gesture is a great alternative.
• 3. Cuddle on the couch
  Turn your usual TV time into a physical encounter by snuggling on the couch. Rather than sitting in
  separate seats, or putting the bowl of popcorn between you, just plop down and get close.
  This turns what could have been an average evening into a warm, shared experience--and maybe
  even more.
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  4. Offer a back or shoulder rub

  
  

  This is an unselfish act that is usually appreciated beyond measure, especially if it's unsolicited. And don't forget foot massages, which can be surprisingly sensual. Doing this may inspire him to return the favor. (Or you can ask in your sweetest voice and he'll get the hint!)
  
  
• 5. Create a private signal

  
  

  An ear tug or wink will mean nothing to those around you, but you'll both know what the other is 
  thinking. Covert foreplay in public often adds to the sensual vibe you are seeking.
• 6. Remind yourself that your spouse was once your boyfriend
  Your days are likely filled with responsibilities and compromises that are decidedly unsexy, and sometimes, it can seem like you're running on parallel tracks with the person you married, just trying to get it all done. But if you take a few minutes to think about your partner as your chosen lover, you'll feel more connected. This is foreplay's foreplay, getting yourself primed to reach out to your partner.
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  7. Be unpredictable
  Surprise your spouse by introducing an arousing vibe into otherwise mundane moments. Give him a long, unbroken kiss while stopped at a red light. Sometimes it's the surprise that counts!
• Need more tips on marriage . Check out Save Your Marriage by Amy Waterman.